Successful People Who've Suffered From Low Self-Esteem
by Kris Deichler, Associate Partner, Lighthouse International
One of the risks when we come to learn from legends is that we can often look at these people and think they are somehow different from us and are some kind of invulnerable super-humans. We can often think success and achievement comes to them more easily than the rest of us.
The truth is that we all doubt ourselves at times, think we aren’t good enough, suffer set-backs and defeats. Even the biggest of stars can and do struggle with confidence and belief in themselves and many of them have had the courage to speak out about them...
"I've always had really low self-esteem, and I still do."
- Mariah Carey
20-time major tennis champion Serena Williams shares how she was often envious of her sister when they were younger..
"There were two Venus Williamses in our family -- it was crazy. [At restaurants] my parents would make me order first, but once she ordered, I'd change my mind. It was tough for me to stop being Venus and become the person I am. ... I still copy Venus in many ways, but it's not as bad."
David Bowie shares how he suffered from low confidence and his only outlet was his work..
"I really felt so utterly inadequate. I thought the work [songwriting, recording, performing] was the only thing of value."
Singer Nicole Scherzinger is known all over the world for her looks and sculpted body but admits that to keep it that way she suffered from Bulimia…
“For eight years, "I did it every day.... Every time I had a second to be alone, I was doing something to myself. You get, like, blisters on your hands or scars on your hands, and I'd try to hide those. ... I just hated myself. I hated myself. I really was so disgusted with myself and so embarrassed. I felt so alone. I was in a group, and I never felt so alone in my life. It's embarrassing. I never spoke about it."
Shocking isn't it? What we all need to remember is we are all human and none of us have bullet-proof confidence. What determines our success in life is what we choose to do with the challenges we face. Do we choose to give into them or do we choose to live a happy, fulfilled life and get the support we need to do so?
One of the first steps is actually to accept our flaws and weaknesses so we can indeed address them. When we see the reality of where we really are, we can then navigate to where we want to go from there.
Thanks to Anneli Rufus for the original article...
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Mariah Carey image courtesy of Disney @ Flickr