Professor Green: What's the Biggest Killer Of Men Under 45?
By Sukh Singh, Associate Partner & Mentorship Coach, Lighthouse International
You'd think if you read the papers these days that it could be cancer or possibly heart disease. But the biggest thing that is killing men in the Western world is young men ending their own lives, and none more so than at this time of year.
I'm not going to claim that there is an easy answer here. There are so many pressures on men, and most of us feel that we can't allow ourselves to feel what we are really feeling, let alone share those worries, fears and anxieties with another person. Everything from mounting debt, to divorce, to losing a loved one can trigger a human being to feel like walking away...
One of the biggest struggles for men is finding their place in the world. Knowing 'who' you're meant to be, what you're meant to be and how you're meant to be. We try and be the 'man' for others, try and be strong, fierce and brave when deep down we are terrified. Or we try and be sensitive and caring yet that vulnerability can be trampled on and laughed at in the wrong places.
You may or may not feel that pull to end things... many of us are losing a real, honest sense of meaning in our lives. Like why am I even here? What's the point? Am I just going to work, earning money and paying for crap I don't want to be someone I don't want to be?
So many of us are sleep-walking through life without any true sense of meaning to our lives, or any purpose that brings us direction... we feel like our power has been taken away from us, our choices are void, cramped in and squashed into a box of living a certain way.
Here is Stephen Manderson, aka Professor Green, sharing a very touching insight into dealing with his dad's suicide.
If you want to find out more about Mr Manderson's journey, click here.
You Affect Other People
I am now in my 30's and have gone through a lot of my life without knowing or feeling any real sense of value to my life, feeling weak and like a ghost in a world full of busy people. But through getting an incredible amount of consistent, strong support in my life from mentors and people who deeply care, I have been helped to see how much my life can genuinely mean something. Not just for me but for others too. There are so many people out there experiencing what you experience, whether those are suicidal thoughts, social anxiety or depression or just a sense of lack... there is someone right now walking in your footsteps and a young person growing up who will travel a similar journey too.
You are not alone. You're not living your life in isolation. You affect other people. And other people affect you. Your life can have incredible depth, beauty and vibrancy to it - slow down. Stop trying to keep up with the pace everyone else is frantically racing at, it's often not real or genuine anyway!
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Here is psychologist Jordan Peterson answering a question from one of his followers,
"I'm thinking of ending my life, why shouldn't I?"
As a bonus... here is how Professor Green channeled his journey and shared it with others:
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