Brené Brown - How Can You Lead By Example And Live An Authentic Life?
By Gillian Watson, Legends Report Writer
Have you ever thought about who is looking up to you? What would you do differently if you knew?
“I do my best because I’m counting on you counting on me”.
Every person you come into contact with during any given day is someone you have the opportunity to lead and inspire. Whether it’s in what you say or how you say it, to connect with another person is to make a difference in their lives.
“Connection is why we’re here;
it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.”
Since 2010, Brené Brown’s TED Talk - 'The Power of Vulnerability' has had close to 40 million views and is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world. Her subsequent 2012 'Listening To Shame' TED talk has had 11 million views. The addition of her latest Netflix special 'Call to Courage' released earlier this year in 2019 continues the discussion for the need for people to take ownership of their impact on the world. The recurring theme across all her research remains: choosing courage over comfort matters.
It’s the paths that ask you to face vulnerability, that create authenticity in what you present to the world. That is when you to come into your own power to define your own leadership and power to influence positively. Realizing that power already lives within us is planting the seed for creating change. Our lives, in any stage of our growth and development, ultimately isn't just for the betterment of ourselves, but should always be for the betterment of others.
If you haven’t watched her talks, be sure to check them out at the end of this article. This is her Netflix series...
“As you grow older, you will realise that you have two hands.
One for helping yourself, the other for helping others”.
3 Ways You Can Lead By Example And Live An Authentic Life
1. Have The Courage To Set Healthy Boundaries
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. We can't base our own worthiness on others' approval. Showing how you value yourself first, sets a genuine tone for others to understand you.
2. Leadership Doesn’t Only Happen At Work
Leadership is an attitude, not a title. Having a perspective that extends beyond your daily to-do-list will start to shift your perspective of the world and in turn, the world will respond with genuine interactions and connections.
Inspire others by your actions, so imitation can be only positive - here are some suggestions:
- express appreciation and spread the spirit of positivity
- share your expertise with others
- make yourself available as a mentor
- offer encouragement
- truly listen when someone talks to you
3. Be Willing To Receive Feedback
Brené Brown’s message is that a real leader is someone who is willing to be vulnerable.
“The courage to be vulnerable is not about winning or losing, it’s about the courage to show up when you can’t predict or control the outcome,” she writes.
Our ego’s (our self-image) often aren’t open to hearing what those around us have to say. Giving feedback in a constructive way, means being open to receiving feedback at the same time.
Here’s a handy checklist from Brené Brown on how to ensure you are ready to give someone feedback for the best outcome.
“If your actions create a legacy that inspires others to
dream more, learn more, do more and become more,
then, you are an excellent leader.”
What is the first thing you can change about your attitude or actions today, to ensure anyone looking up to you is positively inspired?