Adele On Her Most Important Relationship of All
By Kris Deichler, Associate Partner, Lighthouse International
Who would you say is the most important person in your life right now and what is your relationship with them like?
Often the biggest challenges and greatest joys we have are centred around our experiences with other people. Whether it’s with our families, a partner, friends or colleagues; people and how we relate to them can be a complicated business that we invest a lot into...
Focus on You
How often though, do we focus on the one relationship that’s always present and plays a role in every area of our lives - the one we have with ourselves? What I mean by this is how well we treat ourselves in our thoughts and actions; do we value who we are; are we kind, caring and forgiving when we make a mistake, or are we harsh, overly critical of our mistakes and neglectful of our needs, like our health? Do we treat ourselves the same as we would our closest friend, or are we more often our own worst enemy?
For many of us this is the relationship we focus on least. Why? There are many reasons, but often it’s because being honest with ourselves and seeing where we need to admit our faults and make changes feels like a scary and uncertain thing to do. However this central and most important relationship will affect the quality of all our other relationships because; the better you relate to yourself, the better you can relate to others.
How This Perspective Inspired Adele’s New Song and Album
In a fascinating recent article about Adele, in the now legendary young British singer’s new single ‘Hello’, there’s a fascinating tale about how she is reconnecting with who she is and learning about who she has been. It’s a brilliant change in perspective because the song, which on the surface can easily be read as being about a broken romance, is actually about the relationship she has with herself. It is a song about herself, to herself, and what she is coming to realise and appreciate now as a mother and highly successful artist, compared to the aspiring young girl from a broken home she started out as in her career.
As the article says…
“...in the opening lines of "Hello," Adele greets someone. "Hello, it's me/ I was wondering/ If after all these years/ You'd like to meet/ To go over everything," she sings. Taking "Hello" as a song addressed to herself, these lines become about a woman looking to rediscover who she is after years of not knowing.”
"Hello" is not a literal song. The "million miles" she says separates her from the person she's addressing aren't physical — they're emotional. No one who's been through what Adele has could possibly be in the same place psychologically. In four years, she's grown leaps and bounds.”
Here's Adele in her own words shared on her Twitter page:
— Adele (@Adele) October 21, 2015
Watch the whole song, ‘Hello’, here: