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7 Empowering Questions To Help You Overcome Shyness

By James Mills, Associate Partner, Lighthouse International

Have you ever found yourself in situations where you've really struggled to express yourself? Whether it's not knowing what to say, not feeling comfortable to share your thoughts or finding yourself being intimidated by stronger personalities, the consequences of shyness can affect our ability to really connect with others, feel understood and be appreciated for the unique way we see the world.

The ability to listen and empathise with others can be incredibly powerful, but when we fail to speak up in situations where we'd like to, we can limit our ability to lead, inspire and make an impact on others.

There have been many legends who have faced and overcome shyness from CEOs to actors and authors. Here's a couple of quotes from legends who have both faced and overcome their shyness...

"My first language was shy. It's only by having been thrust into the limelight that I have learned to cope with my shyness."

- Al Pacino

"I'm concerned with the lost, the lonely, the shy. I think shyness is in some ways more widespread now than formerly. I used to be shy myself. Of course, you can't be me now and remain shy, but I remember very well what it felt like."

- Ruth Rendell

Shyness can affect anyone in many different ways and it can be the source of great frustration over time if it is not looked at. If you are someone who struggles with shyness and want to overcome it, then here are some empowering questions that will help you to reflect on your current situation and find a way forward helping you to become more confident and open in all areas of your life...

    1. On a scale of 1-10, how possible do you feel it is for someone to overcome their shyness?

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    2. In what situations do you feel shy or struggle to express yourself the most?

    At workWhen meeting new peopleIn any group situationWhen speaking to people with strong personalitiesIn confrontational situationsWith people you are attracted toOther:

    3. Why do you feel you are shy in those circumstances?

    Feel intimidated and/or fear being judgedDon’t feel you have anything valuable to contributePrefer to hear what others have to sayNot knowing what to saySpeech impediment or any voice problemsOther:

    4. What do you feel would be possible if you were to overcome your shyness?

    Improve my relationships with friends & familyI'd be more confident and assertiveIncrease my career or business prospectsFeel more attractive and able to communicate with the opposite sexI'd be generally happierMore able to help others and give back to the causes I care aboutOther:

    5. What, if anything, have you tried to overcome your shyness?

    6. What do you feel has stopped you from facing and overcoming your shyness?

    I don’t feel it’s possible for me to changeI wouldn’t know how or where to startI don’t have the support I needI haven’t had the opportunities to do soOther:

    7. In an ideal world, what support would you value most to help you face and overcome your shyness?

    Support from someone with similar experiencesConnecting with like-minded people who have similar goals to youLearning about other people who have also been challenged with overcoming their shynessOther

    Would you like to learn more about getting help to face and overcome your shyness?

    Yes I'd love to speak with someone about getting help to do this!No thank you

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