15 Ways to Tell an Arrogant Leader From a Humble One
By Jairaj Singh, Associate Partner, Lighthouse International
When you read about the greats, the Nelson Mandela's, the Mahatma Gandhi's, the Martin Luther King Jr's. of this world, you have probably felt there is something different about them to most successful people. Today there are more billionaires than you can shake a stick at, but how many will be remembered in 100 years time?
While the iPhone is an amazing invention, will we remember it in 100 years or will we remember the person who freed South Africa? True legends leave legacies long after their death, there is something different about them. What differentiates them? What are the ingredients that makes a TRUE legend and can they be developed? Can we create more Nelson Mandela's, more Mahatma Gandhi's? The world would be an amazing place if we could, right?
Today I'd like to explore a key character trait that all true legends have. One that separates a great boss from a terrible one, that separates a great parent from a not-so-good one. It's the character trait of humility and it's opposite - arrogance...
Here are some powerful ways to look out for it in yourself and others courtesy of Dan Rockwell's blog, Leadership Freak...
15 Ways to Spot Humility or Arrogance:
- Arrogant legends advance their own agenda by telling others what they want to hear.
- Humble legends serve higher purposes – not themselves. They do and say what’s best for others.
- Humble legends put organisational success before their own.
- Humble legends aren’t climbing the ladder; they are going down the stairs. They aren’t at the top of the heap; they are at the bottom.
- Arrogant legends emphasise your responsibility to them.
- Humble legends focus on their responsibility to others.
- Arrogant managers don’t have time for people.
- Humble managers value people.
- Arrogant bosses focus more on getting than on giving.
- Arrogant legends expect others to serve them.
- Humble legends serve others.
- Arrogant legends brag about themselves.
- Humble legends brag about others.
- Arrogant legends blames others.
- Humble legends take responsibility.
Developing humility in ourselves can be challenging, particularly if we have lived with a lot of pride or been arrogant at times in our lives. However, when you look at the true greats in history, they have all possessed this vital quality. It is not a skill or technique, it cannot be faked. False humility can be worse than arrogance. It comes from a genuine feeling of the heart, of saying sorry when we get it wrong, of letting go of the need to be right, of knowing we don't know it all, of thinking of others more than we think of ourselves as C.S Lewis says in the quote above...
"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less."